Many Filipino expats show uneasy ambivalence in their plans to return for good to the old homeland, with good justifiable reasons. However, here are a few thoughts that could help in addressing the issue.
If one is simply planning an abbreviated visit, then it is quite easy not to mind the many “quirks” one finds there, or maybe even laugh them off.
But once one starts living there and experiences these things on a daily basis and as part of one’s daily existence, then it becomes a different thing, especially for those of us who have been exposed to and have soaked in the nice living environments in other more advanced communities.
One has to have a heart of stone, calloused emotions, or even very deaf ears not to be affected by those pesky things around that need correction or improvement. If so, then frustrations and/or anger could easily take over. Or one gets prone to intuitively express unsolicited vocal criticisms at the very least. If not more, like wanting to exhibit the itchy urge to try to do something about them.
For others, retreating in isolation to their own private little worlds is an escape option – their own beach-side or mountain-top hideaways, or hidden nooks and crannies in some remote barrio or town, etc. Insulated from the rest of the world.
Anyway, coming back to stay for many of those planning to will not be that cut and dried, believe you me. It will involve a lot of discovery or re-discovery, if you will, and making attitudinal adjustments in case the desire to stay put is strong.
Sorry to appear so grim and gloomy in my personal perspective, but I believe it is best to be forewarned and prepared.
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ReplyDeleteI hear you bruthah man... activism here equals death. Happens all the time.. But hey, the way I look at it, if people here are willing to put up with the corruption, the social quirks, the lack of good infrastructure, etc. then they have what they deserve. The rest of them leave and come back once they have what they need to do what you are doing. I'm reading between your lines my friend, and I FEEL your pain...
ReplyDeletePhil, more than just tolerating them, the locals may just not know any better, or expect any better.
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